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Smart People Dating with Dr. Matt Zakreski and Dr. Julia Hodgson

Smart People Dating with Dr. Matt Zakreski and Dr. Julia Hodgson

February 23, 2021

“If you lead with the things that matter most to you, you're giving yourself a much better chance of success.” — Dr. Matt Zakreski

Are you wondering how smart people navigate dating? Dating someone may require you to take authentic leaps to bring out your vulnerable side and create intimacy with the other person. In this week's episode, we are joined by Dr. Matt Zakreski and Dr. Julia Hodgson.

Part One of ‘Smart People Dating with Dr. Matt Zakreski and Dr. Julia Hodgson’

Ultimately, we're looking for people who are on a similar wavelength to us, have similar interests and values. Commonality creates intimacy, which sustains a relationship because you can be intimate with friends and co-workers. You will find that wherever you go, the people you get along with, cognitively have similar brains to yours. So, those are the people you usually create intimate relationships with.

“All relationships give us that opportunity to expand, grow, and become more authentic from the inside out.” – Dianne A. Allen

They help you acknowledge and accept every bit of who you are. It's about being unapologetic for being smart and being your authentic self without being a threat to the person you're dating. Nobody thinks the same way that you do. That's where the beauty of diversity steps in.

Part Two of ‘Smart People Dating with Dr. Matt Zakreski and Dr. Julia Hodgson’

People have different reasons for dating someone. Depending on where you are at life right now, you may be seeking things other than intellectual stimulation, which is fine because it's a journey.

“The person we're dating is someone who should challenge us and make us better.” – Dr. Julia Hodgson

Take a moment to reflect on why you're dating someone and who's the kind of person you want to date. The person you're dating should be someone who sees the good things in you and help you elevate them. The more serious you get about it, the more you realize that dating isn't just about sex or meeting the parents. It's about being together and engaging in activities where both of you are operating on the same depth of intensity.

About Dr. Matt Zakreski and Dr. Julia Hodgson

Matthew Zakreski, PsyD is a high energy, creative clinical psychologist who utilizes an eclectic approach to meet the specific needs of his neurodiverse clients.  He specializes in working with children and adolescents, as well as their families, in providing therapy and conducting psychological evaluations.  He is proud to serve as a consultant to schools, a professor at the university level, and a researcher and author on his specialty, Giftedness.  

Dr. Zakreski is a member of Supporting the Emotional Needs of the Gifted (SENG), the National Association for Gifted Children (NAGC), and the New Jersey Association for Gifted Children (NJAGC).  He is also a member of the Pennsylvania Association for Gifted Education (PAGE) Board of Directors.  He has given professional talks, trainings, and keynote addresses at these organizations and others.  Dr. Zakreski is the co-founder and lead clinician at The Neurodiversity Collective, where he provides therapy, coaching, training, and psychological assessment.

Matthew J. Zakreski, PsyD
Adjunct Professor
Licensed Clinical Psychologist 
Pennsylvania Association for Gifted Education (PAGE) Board Member
https://www.facebook.com/drmattzakreski/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-zakreski-psyd
www.drmattzakreski.com

Julia Hodgson, PsyD, MEd is a psychologist, writer, and lifelong learner and educator. She serves as the Director of Addiction Psychology at AIDS Care Group and is co-founder of The Neurodiversity Collective with her partner, Dr. Matt Zakreski. 

 
Dr. Hodgson has a Doctorate of Clinical Psychology and a Masters of Education in Human Sexuality, both of which she uses to serve her passion for working with marginalized and misunderstood communities. She has specialized in working with people who are pregnant and parenting, additionally acting as an advocate for normalizing discussions about taboo topics and providing support for caregivers.

Julia Hodgson, PsyD. MEd (she/her)
Clinical Psychologist & Sexuality Educator
hodgson.julia@gmail.com
(908) 432-4826
www.drjuliahodgson.com
@DrJuliaParents (Facebook Instagram Twitter)

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The Power of Perseverance with Kathy Garver

The Power of Perseverance with Kathy Garver

February 16, 2021

The Power of Perseverance with Kathy Garver

“Visionaries and creatives tend to be more emotionally sensitive.” — Dianne A. Allen 

2020 has been a tough year for everybody which makes perseverance a relevant topic to talk about. Think about the hard times you opted to persevere when you had all the chance to give up. After all, what can you achieve by giving up? Winners in life don’t quit.

In this week’s episode, we have Kathy Garver to share with us her journey and the importance of perseverance. 

Part One of ‘The Power of Perseverance with Kathy Garver’

Back in high school, Kathy started wondering what her life purpose is. Living in Los Angeles, her mother enrolled her into a singing and dance class, with the expectation of becoming the next Shirley Temple. She didn't start working professionally until she was eight. 

Hollywood's legendary Cecil B. DeMille was one of the first to recognize Kathy's distinct talents. Originally hired for a small part in the epic motion picture "The Ten Commandments," Kathy was noticed by the great director who had special scenes written into the movie to highlight the little girl. This followed her first film, The Night of the Hunter, directed by Academy Award winner Charles Laughton.

“In the entertainment business, you have to be able to do a lot of things.” – Kathy Garver

Kathy doesn't suffer from the sometimes-exaggerated maladies common to former child actors. The hardest thing is being accepted as someone who has depth. Her parents stressed education and normalcy through her childhood and during her Family Affair days, in learning to think and work independently. 

One of the most significant conclusions of why so many famous child stars did not make the transition from being a well-renowned personage, well-reviewed, to jumping over to success is because:

One, the parents took all their money, and when they got to be 18, they didn't have anything. They were bitter and resentful.

Two, they didn't have an education or any other skill sets on which to maneuver and move on to.

Three, they got depressed because they weren't in the limelight anymore. They went from the cute little kid to the awkward teenager, and nobody was buying in Hollywood. The emotionality led them to drugs. It's a serious thing that happens to other child stars.

Part Two of ‘The Power of Perseverance with Kathy Garver’

Kathy's parents have always been supportive but when they moved from Los Angeles to San Bernardino, her awkward transition away from the limelight turned out to be a blessing in disguise. 

Ms. Garver was a freshman majoring in speech at UCLA when she was tested for a television series entitled Family Affair. Kathy, deemed "perfect" to star as "Cissy" with Brian Keith as "Uncle Bill" and Sebastian Cabot as "Mr. French" performed for five years in one of the warmest and most enduring series of the 1960s and '70s. With Anissa Jones as "Buffy" and Johnny Whitaker as "Jody," the show continues to be popular today, pleasing old and new audiences worldwide – a true classic.

“Be joyful every day and make the most of who you are.” – Kathy Garver

Kathy is also very much in demand for her numerous vocal characterizations. She's a stand out in the very competitive field of voices overs for cartoons, commercials, toys, and audiobooks. She voiced "Pepper" an automotive whiz in the Chuck Norris Karate Kommandos series and "Firestar," a mutant superhero in the Spiderman and his Amazing Friends TV series. Ms. Garver produced, narrated, and wrote lyrics and original music for eight audio Beatrix Potter tales and eight Mother Goose based audiotapes for Smarty Pants, Inc.  

Kathy's Beatrix Potter tapes have sold over two million copies and have won numerous awards.  Ms. Garver has also won two Audie Awards, one for her narration of The World's Shortest Stories, the other in 2004 for her direction of Amy Tan in The Opposite of Fate read by the author. Kathy has recorded books for Brilliance Audio, Dove, Listen, and Live and can be downloaded at the Timberwolfpress.com site. Her voice has been heard in Apollo 13 (which was awarded the Academy Award for sound), Ransom, Back Draft, and Jingle all the Way, all directed by Ron Howard.

It takes hard work, dedication, and focus to accomplish something. No matter what your talent is, use all of them to spark inspiration in others. Be proud of yourself, no matter what circumstances you're in. Don't let your negative thoughts consume you and make you think you'll never achieve your goals.

About Kathy Garver

Kathy was born in Long Beach, California to Hayes and Rosemary Garver joining her sister, Beverly, and brothers, Hayes, Jr. and Lance.  Beverly entered UCLA at a precocious 15 years old at the time Kathy started working professionally. During Ms. Garver’s teenage years, Kathy added radio and stage to her burgeoning film and television career. 

Kathy now has her own family affair. She met her husband of 33 years, business executive David Travis, on a tennis court in Palm Springs – truly a love match.  Their son Reid Garver Travis, now 23, continues the tradition of show business by appearing in national commercials, TV, movies and by doing voice overs.

Most fondly remembered for her starring role as “Cissy” in the long running CBS international television hit, “Family Affair”, Kathy Garver has also garnered critical acclaim in movies, stage, radio, voice-over animation, and audio book narration. 

Ms. Garver has used her wealth of experience and education to entertain and instruct thousands of people with her exciting and successful motivational and interactive speeches and presentations. From Keynote speaker to host to workshop leader, Kathy Garver has enriched the lives of those who have been able to listen and learn from her inspirational communications.  

Kathy is available for corporate events, hosting, emceeing, moderating groups, giving lectures, workshops, keynote addresses and tailoring specific programs for the needs of her clients.  She includes workbooks and takes home audio albums for her clients and audience members.

Today, Kathy Garver is an accomplished and versatile actress, appearing in such films as Sweet November, The Princess Diaries, MOW'S such as FBI Murders and Stay the Night with Guest Star roles on many TV shows. She is a sought-after celebrity on Game shows, winning top money for charities as she did on “Street Smarts” and other reality programs.

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How to Change Your Life Before You Have to with Dr. Rachel Sterry

How to Change Your Life Before You Have to with Dr. Rachel Sterry

February 9, 2021

How to Change Your Life Before You Have to with Dr. Rachel Sterry

“Having a lot of negative self-talk about body image and making a change from a place of fear is most likely not going to be sustainable.” — Dr. Rachel Sterry

How many times have you tried to change something you’ve been unsuccessful in changing before? In this week’s episode, we have Dr. Rachel Sterry, an acupuncturist and a doctor of natural medicine talking about how to change your life before you have to. 

Part One of ‘How to Change Your Life Before You Have to with Dr. Rachel Sterry’

Dr. Sterry shares a difference between wanting to embrace change and thinking you should make a change. These two things have a significant bearing on your success because real change must come from a place of excitement and the motivation to achieve good health. If it comes from the place of “I should do this,” it takes on a very different tone.

“The value is not in the doing. It's in your inherent beingness.” – Dianne A. Allen 

Some people who want to make changes to their diet end up having many negative self-talk and body shaming themselves. The truth is, if it comes from a place of fear, it’s not going to be sustainable in the long run. The choices you make today will impact who you’re going to be in the next years of your life.

Part Two of ‘How to Change Your Life Before You Have to with Dr. Rachel Sterry’

Dr. Sterry says, “I’m a big believer in sustainable change. I don’t think you can do that by changing everything all at once.”

The kind of change you wish to happen depends on how solid your foundation is. There is no magic pill, magic wand, or genie in a bottle that could facilitate the changes just because you want to see quick results, whatever that may be.

“You need to change something that you've been unsuccessful in changing before.” – Dr. Rachel Sterry

It all boils down to one question: what is your biggest motivator? If you’re driven by fear, it’s usually because of guilt and shame, especially if they’re not engaging in the process they’ve agreed to change. 

Just like grapes that need to be turned into good wine, it's more about the soil. It doesn't matter what you spray on your grapes and what you do to them. If you don't plant them in soil rich in what they need, they're not going to thrive. It’s the same way that we're approaching medicine right now; the soil symbolizes our health. Are you taking care of your body in the ways that are going to allow you to thrive?

About Dr. Rachel Sterry

She received her BA in medical anthropology from Colby College, and, after declining an offer to attend Harvard Medical School, she received my medical training from the National University of Natural Medicine.

This brings us to today, where she gets to help busy mamas reclaim their health and live the life they’ve envisioned.

For me, the dream is helping mamas take care of themselves as well as care for everyone else so they get to enjoy the sometimes bumpy journey through motherhood.

How to Connect with Dr Rachel Sterry

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Gifted People in the Workspace

Gifted People in the Workspace

February 2, 2021

Gifted People in the Workspace

“Gifted people can see things differently and can solve problems without telling others how they got it solved.” — Dianne A. Allen 

Was there a time in your life where you felt like you're different from everyone else? Vice versa, have you met many gifted people along the way, and you never truly understood them? Gifted people in the workplace can be judged and misunderstood by others. If this is something that resonates with you, keep reading because this episode will help you understand how to deal with gifted people or how you can know yourself more as a gifted person.

Part One of ‘Gifted People in the Workspace’

I've worked in the healthcare industry and different venues for much of my career, and I had a client who does a very specialized medical procedure. As a gifted mentor, I’ve learned that his sense of priority and his sense of focus is simply different than other people. Transitions are hard for gifted people to go from working intensely on a medical procedure and then relaxing in the staff room. He took his job very seriously, and he didn't have time for other things. 

Does that make him anti-social or wrong? Well, they missed the fact that not everybody processes the world the same way, and not everybody does it the same. For example, the other day, somebody said to me, "I love your voice, Diane. I love listening to your meditations and hearing you speak."

I laughed and said, "Thank you for being in here." It flows easily because being gifted can be a real challenge when you're around other people, mostly because of the social skills that make it a little bit awkward or different. 

But it’s also important to realize that this isn’t about being right or wrong. It's about cultivating a culture where we embrace our differences and appreciate the diversity around us.

“Work with somebody who knows about giftedness to expand and see where your rightful place is.” – Dianne A. Allen

Notice that if you're supervising somebody who's really smart and talented, you promote them to be a director, you're engaging with them in a social situation or a corporate world like a hospital or a big company, you will see that sometimes there's some awkwardness there, or sometimes we have to play through what we're going to do and how we're going to do it because most of us don't fit in very easily to some of the social situations. 

Part Two of ‘Gifted People in the Workspace’

When we try to look at somebody else and compare them to our experience, that's not as accurate as it could be. I've worked in many places as a director where I didn’t feel understood by people there. They knew how good I was, but I’ve experienced a lot of judgment by those people under my supervision because they simply didn’t understand that I function differently.

Gifted people can be very hyper-focused. I remember walking down the hall from my office to another setting. I was completely focused on delivering the highest care to my clients. Let’s say you’re somebody on the outside who would come in and start talking; then I wouldn't hear you. Or I might have a smile on my face because I'm thinking, and you could misinterpret that is being angry when I'm not angry at all. 

Here’s the crazy thing: I've had people say, "You're mad at me." I'm like, "What? I'm not mad at you. Are you kidding me? That's crazy." It's super easy to get misinterpreted. So, a healthy alternative would be to use the person's name and get their full attention before you start speaking to them. Because when somebody talks to me using my name, they get my attention. Thus, I will now be directly devoted to my intention on what's happening, what you're trying to say to me, and you will see that I'm not angry.

“Instead of looking at people in the workspace as a problem, let's look at their assets.” – Dianne A. Allen 

Another thing about gifted people is that it's harder to socially engage when you're introverted, and you're not sure how to do it. It's more difficult when you see things differently than other people. Sometimes, the words are elusive to even how to communicate it. 

Therefore, let's have some compassion for each other, and as gifted people, let's have some compassion for the people who don't get us. Let's try to use the language that everybody can come together to serve the greater good in whatever it is we're doing, whatever our company is, whatever our work is, whatever our lives are, so gifted people in the workspace can be a challenge, and it's also a great asset. It's time that we create a culture that encourages people to embrace their giftedness without feeling guilty.

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The Power of Yes with Entertainer Tony Russell

The Power of Yes with Entertainer Tony Russell

January 26, 2021

The Power of Yes with Entertainer Tony Russell

“Do you know how talented you are?” — Tony Russell

As an actor, Tony appeared in numerous films and television shows. As a comedian, he appeared on many of the talk shows, worked in Las Vegas, as well as many corporate gigs and performing arts centers. He's also a member of the acclaimed Actors Studio where he appeared in many stage productions. 

Part One of ‘The Power of Yes with Entertainer Tony Russell’

Anthony Russell has parlayed an extensive talent for music into an acting career that includes stage, film and television productions. Tony’s parents were already into music before he got into the creative entertainment space. He was named after his father who often performed at wedding celebrations. He had memories of harmonizing old songs together with his family; that’s how involved they are into music.  

As a child, Russell played harmonica, ukulele, guitar, trombone and piano. He worked his way through college playing and singing in a show band. After graduating Montclair State College with a major in trombone and a minor in piano, his band was booked as a Las Vegas lounge act in many of the major hotels. Russell even worked in the Atlantic City 500 Club where Dean Martin and Jerry Lewis first got together as a team. 

“I was 63 years old when I got on the Bonnie Hunt show.” – Tony Russell

Tony shares some of his tragic memories when he was young. The attack on Pearl Harbor happened, his father's brother, who was also his best friend, got killed in the war. It was back in 1941 when a surprise military strike by the Imperial Japanese Navy Air Service upon the United States against the naval base at Pearl Harbor took place in Honolulu, Territory of Hawaii.

Part Two of ‘The Power of Yes with Entertainer Tony Russell’

Anthony (Tony) Russell originally from Newark, New Jersey, came to Hollywood in 1967 to pursue a career in show business. Tony is multi-faceted being an actor, stand-up comedian, singer, musician, composer and nightclub entertainer. He came into prominence as “Tony Russo'' on the ABC Television Network's hilarious sitcom, "Life with Bonnie" starring Bonnie Hunt. 

“Do you have a vision that you want to emerge?” – Dianne A. Allen 

Encouraged by his best friend who recognized his talents, Russell journeyed to New York to study acting at HB Studios and eventually earned a coveted membership in the acclaimed Actors Studio. He appeared in four of the group's stage productions, and was also in the cast of "Lamppost Reunion'' which won the best ensemble acting award at the Court Theater in Hollywood. Russell's other Theatrical appearances include, "A Streetcar Named Desire", "Guys & Dolls", "One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest" & “Two Gentlemen of Verona".

About Tony Russell

Russell pursued stand-up comedy, and made appearances in many of the famed U.S. comedy clubs such as The Comedy Store, The Improv in Hollywood, The Ice House, and The Comedy Magic in Hermosa Beach. He also made comedic appearances on "The Merv Griffin Show", "The Dinah Shore Show", "Norm Crosby's Comedy Shop", "Madam's Place", "Make Me Laugh", and "The John Davidson Show" to name a few. He's opened for Las Vegas stars such as Frankie Avalon, Julie London, Roger Miller, Joe Williams, Tony Martins and Lou Rawls.

Russell's film credits include "Bugsy" with Warren Beatty, "Casino" with Robert De Niro and Joe Pesci, "Ed Wood" with Johnny Depp and Martin Landau, "Out Of Justice" with Steven Segal, "Suddenly" with Kirstie Alley, "Living out Loud" with Holly Hunter and Danny De Vito, and "Winchell" with Stanley Tucci. On television, he was a recurring character on "The Fanelli Boys" and guest starred on "NYPD Blue", "Becker", "Home Improvement", "Mad About You", "Roseanne", "The George Carlin Show", "The Profiler", "Reba", "The John Larroquette Show", "Diagnosis Murder", "Silk Stalkings", "Night Court", "Sabrina, the Teenage Witch", "Family Law" and "Arliss."

Russell continues to play piano everyday, loving the classic composers of American music, particularly The Gershwins, Rodgers and Hammerstein, Rodgers and Hart, Cole Porter, Jerome Kern, and Frank Leosser. Russell's also has a jazz band where he sings, plays, does stand-up and has wail of a time. Russell's other passions include watching old movies, walking with his beloved dog Angelo, learning old songs, and appreciating natural beauty. When time allows, he continues to work regularly at The Riviera Hotel in Las Vegas as a stand-up comedian.

 

Tony says, ‘Throughout all my struggles my wife Rosemarie believed in my talent and never questioned what I was doing. She was always behind me 100%. Rosemarie is the love of my life.’

 

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How to be Lighthearted with Dianne A. Allen

How to be Lighthearted with Dianne A. Allen

January 19, 2021

Lightheartedness is not for the faint-hearted. Being lighthearted in a world full of turmoil, difficulty, strife, and fear, it makes you a beacon of light, like a lighthouse. It took years for me to learn how to become lighthearted. I promise you will experience the benefits physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. If you're feeling heavy lately, I want to share with you four essential things to understand so you can be more lighthearted.

Part One of ‘How to be Lighthearted’

First, lightheartedness does not mean being goofy or dismissive, or not caring. Sometimes when people see me being lighthearted and joyful, they misinterpret me as someone who doesn't care. That's not true at all. I care very deeply. I know that if I let heaviness and depression pull me down, I can't serve anyone, and I'm not lifting the world. 

Becoming lighthearted must be something that empowers you and everyone around you. It sets you up to have a growth mindset and be creative the way you were designed to be. It's the antidote for the fear, the pain, and the suffering that we see around the world. It doesn't mean you, and I don't feel pain. It means that what we do with it might be something different than suffering and holding on to it like a badge of honor.

“Don't let old beliefs, judgment, pain, grief, and suffering squash your life.” – Dianne A. Allen 

Second, lightheartedness comes when you bring your creativity and your personal heart's desire or vision together. It's so important to realize that you are already fully equipped. You already have everything you need within you. You're ready to rock and do what is meant to be done by you, and only you can do it because you're unique.

When we try to compare to something outside or let everyone else have a say without really going within, we cheapen ourselves. Don't let the world views and other people's opinions tell you that you can't do things. All of those things can take our lightheartedness and shrink it down. 

You have the power to choose the story that you believe is true about yourself. Your heart's desires are different from mine. We have different gifts to get to wherever and emerge into that part of us that is meant to come into the world in a significant way. Some people do it in science, in medicine, in creative activity, or in writing all different things. I could go on forever.

Part Two of ‘How to be Lighthearted’

The most successful people are lighthearted because holding on to old beliefs, judgment, pain, grief, and suffering will only destroy your life. Free yourself from any bondage because there are so many opportunities for us to keep growing and evolving as we take off all the heaviness added to our beautiful light over the years.

Third, to be lighthearted, it's critical to check your words. Words have meaning, and they have a lot of creative power. What are you saying out loud? All of those words have meaning and energy behind them. Suppose we say depression, that brings everybody's energy down into depression. When you're happy, everybody's energy comes up. 

“Allow your words to serve you and speak toward where you're going.” – Dianne A. Allen 

Lastly, how do you remain lighthearted despite other people's judgment? 

The truth is, somebody else's judgments have nothing to do with you. Instead of talking about what's wrong or what's not working, start speaking toward what's real, right, and good. Affirmation is one way to do it, but it's another thing to trust your inner light and creativity.

I was told multiple times as a young child that I didn't have any creativity, not by my family but by teachers. They were wrong, but I didn't know that. I took it in, and I believed it. I rehearsed that in my head as children do. I had to peel it away to see that it was an untruth that I started believing to be true so that my real authentic creativity could show up. 

As I peeled away the layers of things people said when I was little, I repeated them because they got in me. Once I started freeing that out, my empathic, intuitive sense showed up more. My sensitive self could feel safe in the world again, and my creativity began to flourish.

I hope this episode sparked that hope in your heart that you have everything you need to be happy, joyful, and successful. I believe in your inner greatness; I hope you do too. You are beautiful, lovable, and capable.

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The Passion of Serving People & Being Part of a Community with Emmanuel Soba

The Passion of Serving People & Being Part of a Community with Emmanuel Soba

January 12, 2021

The Passion of Serving People & Being Part of a Community with Emmanuel Soba

“My ultimate goal is to impact millions of lives.” — Emmanuel Soba

There’s more to every person than meets the eye. Everybody has an interesting story to tell. The kind of story that deserves to be unlocked and be shared with the whole world. In this week’s episode, Dianne A. Allen welcomes Emmanuel Soba and talks about serving other people and being part of a community. 

Part One of ‘The Passion of Serving People & Being Part of a Community with Emmanuel Soba’

Emmanuel is only thirty-three, but his achievements are mind-blowing. He went from being homeless (living in his car) to becoming a personal trainer in Washington, D.C. The manager whom he had an interview with called him one time and said, “I don’t know what it is about you, but there’s something about you and I want you to give you a chance. We’re going to hire you.” 

“When people come together with a common purpose, that builds a sense of community no matter what it is.” – Dianne A. Allen 

Eventually, he became one of the top fitness experts, trained celebrities, and created a body sculpting studio. Nine years later, he opened up his own marketing agency where he extended help to other business owners on how to scale their business. He now owns three businesses that he runs autopilot, while he gets to work on different things. 

Part Two of ‘The Passion of Serving People & Being Part of a Community with Emmanuel Soba’

Serving others and being part of a community is somehow about creating long-lasting memories. One of the ways for him to do this is by creating a TV series. Without spoiling the details too much, he’s working with different people to turn this plan into a reality. The goal is for everybody to sit down in front of their 24-hour marathon and not just watch an ordinary Christmas story movie, but be able to engage with the casts and get goosebumps. 

“My moral obligation is to create a legacy that will continue to give back long after I'm gone.” – Emmanuel Soba

It’s exciting because this shows that when people come together with a common purpose or common love for something, no matter what it is, it builds a sense of community. It becomes a place for everyone to feel safe, heard, and understood. This upcoming TV series is one of Emmanuel’s ways to create that memory not just for himself, but for many generations to come.

About Emmanuel Soba

 

With an extensive background in fitness, marketing and sales, Emmanuel is an expert on strategy design and implementation. This work led me to my current role at A Christmas Story Family where I am responsible for marketing, sales, and creating business relationships for leveraging growth and impact. Some of my current projects include A Christmas Story Family engagement group with the cast, a brand-new TV series, an awesome giveaway contest, and free autographs from the cast to their fans.

Owner of Profits Unleashed Media - Strategy Consulting & Implementation Agency: https://profitsunleashedmedia.biz/homepage40277000

Co-founder of A Christmas Story Family - 

FREE GROUP (Interact with the actors from the movie): https://www.facebook.com/groups/achristmasstoryfamily

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An Interview with Yano Anaya of A  Christmas Story

An Interview with Yano Anaya of A Christmas Story

January 5, 2021

An Interview with Yano Anaya of A Christmas Story

“When you go from employee status to entrepreneur, nobody ever teaches you that you need to have a particular skill set to find your balance.” — Yano Anaya

Life is full of twists and turns. People can bounce back from difficult situations with greater mental strength. If you’re going through a trying time, this inspiring episode with Yano Anaya of ‘A Christmas Story’ serves as a great reminder that you’re not alone. 

Part One of An Interview with Yano Anaya of A Christmas

Back in the 60s, when Yano’s family decided to move from Miami to California, he was about 4 years old. Since her sister was already in the entertainment industry, she was the one pushing their mother to take a chance in Hollywood. So, Yano did a lot of commercials as a child. 

Fast forward to 1994, that was a very scary part of his life because it destroyed the house he was living in. That time, he was living there all by himself because his mother and sister had moved back to Florida. With that experience, he decided to pack up his things and fly to Vegas.

It was a traumatic experience for him and along the way he learned that he needed to address his emotions, even if there were times he thought those things don’t need to be dealt with.

“If you surround yourself with more experienced people, more seasoned, and have more education than you, you have room to grow.” – Yano Anaya

He started his career as a personal trainer in Vegas, moved to Puerto Rico, and eventually went back to the United States. When he got hired as the Director of Education for the Atlanta Personal Training Program, that's when his ability to manage blossomed more. It's a wonderful experience for him to be able to meet people who love exercise and eating healthy. 

Part Two of An Interview with Yano Anaya of A Christmas

Jumping from one industry to another taught him that when you start doing something that requires you to be better than who you used to be, it could take you far beyond what you’ve always dreamed of. From there, he decided to open up his own bicycle studio.

“I believe our purpose is to encourage and inspire other people to be the best versions of themselves.” – Yano Anaya

According to Yano, when you go from employee status to entrepreneur, nobody ever teaches you that you literally need to have a very specific skill set when it comes to understanding how to balance your life. 

If you're not married, that's great, you can focus on your business. But if you are married and planning to start your own family, don’t allow your professional life to pour into your personal life. It’s easy to get so caught up in the business aspect of being an entrepreneur and end up losing so much. 

He went through the process of divorce and losing his business but as long as you’re surrounded with people with rich life experiences, you will always have the room to grow. 

About Yano Anaya

Yano Anaya is an American actor, a Body Transformation Expert, and Exercise Science Educator, known for his work as Grover Dill in A Christmas Story (1983). He was one of the paperboys in the film Better Off Dead... (1985) and performed all of the voice-over dialogue for the lead paper boy in the film. He also starred alongside Dylan McDermott and Dean Stockwell in the indie film The Blue Iguana (1988). Yano was in Van Halen's iconic video, "Van Halen: Hot for Teacher" (1984), as young Michael Anthony Jr.

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Zack Ward Gifted Child Actor - A Christmas Story and Beyond

Zack Ward Gifted Child Actor - A Christmas Story and Beyond

December 29, 2020

Zack Ward Gifted Child Actor - A Christmas Story and Beyond

“The more you make yourself emotionally empathic and sympathetic, you can experience other people's lives vicariously.” — Zack Ward

If you’re struggling with courage to fight for your dreams, this inspiring episode will make you believe that you only regret the risks you didn’t take. Let’s welcome Zack Ward as he shares his adventure in the entertainment industry and the life-changing lessons it taught him.

Part One of Zack Ward Gifted Child Actor - A Christmas Story and Beyond

Zack’s heartwarming story will inspire you to believe in yourself and appreciate your little wins in life. His move to Toronto was the starting point of his commercial auditions which took him a year before he got his first job. 

 

He auditioned around thirty times, which led him into his big break – nailing an audition for a Christmas story. He started acting professionally when he was 10 years old, he’s now fifty-one, so that brings it to a total of forty years.

“Not everything you do is for money. Sometimes, it's for the rarity of the opportunity that makes perfect sense.” – Zack Ward

As someone who’s working in the film industry, he shares that reading and being able to identify with characters you’ve never met are essential. The thing about acting is that you get to translate yourself into another universe and experience other people’s lives. His love for writing, directing, and producing has taught him that no one is stopping yourself except you. 

Part Two of Zack Ward Gifted Child Actor - A Christmas Story and Beyond

Witnessing good movies gave him the opportunity to develop new eyes to appreciate great art. Magicians know how the trick works but it doesn’t make their performance less impressive. 

Don’t overthink too much thinking that perfectionism is always required because the truth is – that’s an excuse from the wear and fear. You have the choice in life to risk failure. If you don’t risk failure, you end up failing because you never attempted anything. 

 

“Take a lot of risks. You never regret the chances you take. You regret the things you didn't try.” – Zack Ward

You are responsible for your own life. Imagine, several years from now, if you don’t do something, nothing will happen. On the other hand, when you’re gifted and overflowing with creative ideas, it’s so easy to get distracted. 

Thus, Zack’s advice is: do not tell people what you're going to do because the problem is your brain does not see the difference between your words and your actions. If you tell people, "Man, I'm going to write this movie about..." Then, you get tempted to talk about the whole movie when you haven't written anything down yet. 

You still haven't finished your outline and basic story points. You start walking around telling all your friends about the thing you're going to make or the thing you're going to write. You haven't done any of it yet. Your brain is going to feel satisfied with the endorphin rush of your friends. You hear words like, "What a great idea. You're so smart." 

You feel confident that you fulfilled your goals but the truth is you didn't and you're just getting started. Keep it to yourself. You can say to people, "I'm working on something, I don't want to talk about it until it's done."

About Zack Ward

Zack Ward was born in 1969, in Toronto, Canada, to his mother, actress Pam Hyatt, and father, Todd Ward. At 8 years of age, he wanted to act, but his Mom wanted him to have a "normal life", and would not let him. His older brother, Carson, argued on his behalf and Zack got the chance to perform. 

After 2 years of commercials, he auditioned for the '80s classic A Christmas Story (1983) and won the role of Scut Farkus. On the first day of shooting, the director, Bob Clark, saw that Zack was a foot taller than Yano Anaya (who played Grover Dill) and swapped their dialog. Now Scut was the bully and Grover the Toady.  

Over the last 4 decades of his career, Zack has acted in 120 films, starred in three tv series, guest-starred in 70+ TV shows, and done dozens of commercials. He has written 7 produced features and 1 series. He has produced 4 films and directed/ edited 2 of them. 

Ward is currently in post-production on the latest film he wrote and directed, "Patsy Lee & the Keeper of the 5 Kingdoms." It's an 80's style family magic adventure movie in the style of "The Goonies" meets "The Dark Crystal", starring James Hong from "Big Trouble in Little China"

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How to Have Resilience and Vibrancy in Life with Brian Mahan

How to Have Resilience and Vibrancy in Life with Brian Mahan

December 22, 2020

Sometimes, our capacity to recover quickly from difficulties depend on two things: are you afraid of being different? Or you’re afraid of being like everyone else? 

In this week’s episode, we are joined by Brian Mahan, who has helped many trauma survivors, a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, specializes in the physiology of stress and in renegotiating shock and developmental trauma.

Part One of ‘How to Have Resilience and Vibrancy in Life with Brian Mahan’

He suffered from developmental trauma, social anxiety, self-sabotage, self-loathing, shame, low self-esteem, depression, habitual re-enactments, and then came the 7-10 full-blown panic attacks every day, following a catastrophic car wreck. 

After three sessions with a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, my panic attacks stopped, and I entered the three-year training program to become a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner two weeks later. Since 2004, thirteen of his clients have become practitioners as well. That is a true testament to the power and efficacy of his work.

“We can't change the past, but we can change who we are and our relationship to it.” – Brian Mahan (41:46-41:49)

When he was a child, he felt like there wasn’t anything that he could say or do enough. He learned to be whoever he was surrounded with. But when he was around more than two people, he became invisible and quiet. Those experiences made him realize that shame is used in every culture since the beginning to socialize children. It’s been used to protect the tribe, family, or the community. It’s also used to establish power and maintain the hierarchy. He describes it as a ubiquitous human experience. 

He says, “I didn’t understand that my inability to socially engage was a result of the shame I felt for being different and not like everyone else.” And this is something we can all relate with, right?

Sometimes, it’s not easy to recognize shame because it’s not always visible on the surface. When you’re talented, gifted and successful, shame can kick in because what you have sets you apart from other people. But there are two different kinds of shame: toxic shame and healthy shame. What’s the difference between the two?

Part Two of ‘How to Have Resilience and Vibrancy in Life with Brian Mahan’

Toxic shame is when we identify with something negative like:

“I’m bad.”

“I’m less than broken.”

“I’m different.”

“I’m damaged.”

“I don’t belong.”

“I don’t have value.”

“I’m broken.”

“I’m unlovable and unlikeable.”

To experience ultimate healing, what we want to do is nurture and support healthy shame. In the transmutation of toxic shame into healthy shame, we can use the power of discernment. It’s okay to recognize and acknowledge that you make mistakes. Thus, that helps us in socialization because shame exists around it. 

We’re normally dependent upon others for our survival. And so, even as an infant, we have an instinctual drive to connect, join and maintain that relational connection no matter what. The experience of shame is the fear of having an interpersonal bridge be broken and the risk of being abandoned or neglected. 

Brian shares the value in healing shame by stating, “In healing shame, what we work on is expanding the container of an adult, to be able to remember the dismembered parts and you can express yourself with authenticity.”

“There's a way to rebuild your belief system in a way that's functioning and healthy.” – Dianne A. Allen (56:49-56:55)

You can embrace every bit of what you have while setting a boundary between which parts you choose to come out and play, depending on which circumstances and people. You can choose to freely behave differently at church than you do at a football game. It doesn’t mean you’re being inauthentic; it only shows our capacity to be multifaceted. And that’s what gifted people are good at – thinking on multiple dimensions effortlessly. You may be asking, what does trauma have to do with all these things?

Brian is not a traditional talk therapist, which means he believes that too much of the narrative can keep retelling the story and cause more trauma. His initial rule for the first two sessions is – no narrative. We have to learn to outgrow the story and focus on heading to the next level of freedom. Trauma isn’t a life sentence that you have to get stuck with forever. 

About Brian Mahan

Brian D. Mahan is not a traditional talk therapist. He's a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, specializing in working with anxiety, PTSD, developmental trauma, shock trauma and shame.

For Brian's personal growth and desire to be more effective with his clientele, he has completed a 7-module training on Healing Shame with Bret Lyons, SEP, and Sheila Rubin, MA, LMFT, RDT/BCT, in Berkeley, CA. I am now certified in the Lyon/ Rubin Method for Healing Shame and currently assisting them in training. I’ve also taken extensive training in the study of developmental trauma.

He's grateful to be in a position to help other trauma survivors and specializes in working with both developmental traumas (birth traumas, shame, abuse and neglect, attachment/detachment issues, etc.) and shock traumas (divorce, loss, falls, car wrecks, medical procedures, acts of violence, rape, torture, near death experiences, etc.).

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