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Someone Gets Me speaks to the gifted visionary who lies inside of you. Hosted by Dianne A. Allen, this podcast was created for those gifted and talented people who lie awake feeling alone inside. You are no longer alone. I created this podcast because we’ve all been there – feeling not understood, feeling not seen, feeling like people don’t care. You will hear from gifted people who have gotten over the chasm and have taken the leap to really create something special.
Episodes
Tuesday May 02, 2023
Tuesday May 02, 2023
Title: Navigating Relationships as a Gifted Person
In this episode, we delve into the complexities and nuances of navigating relationships as a gifted person. Our discussion covers the importance of understanding emotions, being aware of our own intensities, and cultivating a deep sense of self-awareness. We also explore the significance of communication, setting boundaries, and maintaining healthy connections with ourselves and others. Whether you are gifted or in a relationship with a gifted person, this episode offers valuable insights and practical tips to foster meaningful and fulfilling relationships. Join me as we share our experiences and reveal the keys to fostering connection, belonging, and love in our lives.
Key points in the episode:
- Understanding emotions: Recognizing that words are just descriptors of emotions and that gifted individuals may experience emotions that don't have specific words to describe them. This highlights the importance of being in touch with one's emotions and not dismissing them due to a lack of language.
- Communication and checking in: Ensuring that both the listener and the speaker in a conversation are aware of each other's emotional state and are truly engaging in deep listening.
- Setting boundaries: Establishing limits in relationships and being aware of one's own needs, as well as respecting the needs of others.
- Intensities: Gifted individuals tend to be intense in various aspects of their lives, such as mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and socially. Being aware of one's intensities and how they can affect relationships is crucial.
- Self-care and self-awareness: Gifted individuals need to prioritize taking care of themselves and being aware of their emotions, needs, and boundaries in order to maintain healthy relationships.
- Adapting to different communication styles: Recognizing that everyone processes information differently and being open to adapting one's communication style in order to better connect with others.
- Building deeper relationships: Most gifted individuals desire deeper connections and a sense of belonging. Nurturing meaningful relationships involves investing in their growth, understanding the nuances, and offering emotional safety.
By understanding and implementing these key points, gifted individuals can foster more meaningful, fulfilling, and healthy relationships in their lives.
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The 6-month Visionary Leader Program will move you forward. You will grow, transform and connect.
Join our Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme
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Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
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Website: https://visionsapplied.com/
Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your special gift, so let your light shine!
Tuesday Apr 25, 2023
Tuesday Apr 25, 2023
In this episode of the Someone Gets Me podcast, Dianne A. Allen shares her wisdom on how to be heard and understood in various situations. She emphasizes the importance of aligning your energy and communication with the mood and goal of each interaction, managing your energy effectively, and staying open to learning and improving your social cues. By embracing these strategies, you can create more peace, love, kindness, and compassion in your life and make a positive impact in the world.
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Adjusting your inner light: By aligning your energy and communication with the mood and goal of a situation, you can be more effective and foster better relationships.
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Staying teachable: Be open to learning and improving your social cues and understanding of different situations to enhance your interactions and avoid misunderstandings.
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Focusing on the benefit for all: When engaging with others, consider the well-being of all parties involved and strive for a higher principle that benefits everyone.
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Promoting peace, love, kindness, and compassion: By fostering understanding and effective communication, we can contribute to a more harmonious world.
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The 6-month Visionary Leader Program will move you forward. You will grow, transform and connect.
Join our Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme
Follow Dianne’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen
Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
Dianne’s Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com/
Website: https://visionsapplied.com/
Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your special gift, so let your light shine!
Tuesday Apr 18, 2023
Tuesday Apr 18, 2023
In this episode of Someone Gets Me, I share my insights on how to break free from the family trance and create a healthier and happier family system. It all starts with one person who makes the decision to do something different and elevate the family system into a place where everyone can thrive. This is not a weekend project but a lifelong journey of personal growth and healing. I discuss the importance of self-awareness, compassion, and the non-linear nature of healing on a spiral.
Here are three key takeaways from this episode:
- Breaking free from the family trance is a decision that requires self-awareness and a willingness to do the work. It's important to recognize that healing is not linear but rather a circular journey of growth and personal evolution.
- Compassion is an essential ingredient in creating a healthier and happier family system. When we elevate our own energy and make positive changes, it has a ripple effect on everyone in the system, even those who may not be aware of it.
- It's essential to let go of the past and move forward with hope and optimism. When we recognize that the universe is constantly expanding and evolving, we can align ourselves with the flow of life and create a future that is more fulfilling and joyful.
Remember, your family history and systems don't have to define your present or your future. By making a conscious decision to break free from old patterns and beliefs, you can start a positive ripple effect that will benefit not only yourself but everyone in your family system. It's important to understand that healing and growth aren't linear, and it's okay to revisit past issues as you continue to progress. If you commit to making small, consistent efforts every day toward your own personal development, you'll start to see positive changes in your life and in your family system. You are capable of creating a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling life for yourself and your loved ones. Remember, you're a rock star, and you're here on purpose with a purpose. Keep shining!
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The 6-month Visionary Leader Program will move you forward. You will grow, transform and connect.
Join our Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme
Follow Dianne’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen
Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
Dianne’s Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com/
Website: https://visionsapplied.com/
Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your special gift, so let your light shine!
Tuesday Apr 11, 2023
Tuesday Apr 11, 2023
In this episode, Dianne discusses how restlessness, irritability, and discontent can signal personal growth and transformation. She shares her own experiences and offers insights on how to navigate these feelings and use them as a catalyst for positive change. By embracing curiosity and discernment, you can explore new experiences and opportunities that may be related to your mission or purpose. Listen as she talks about the importance of having a support system, such as mentors, coaches, friends, and like-minded people, to help you through these times of discomfort. Learn how to accept the invitation from your higher self and the universe to step into your own personal sovereignty, freeing yourself from the bondage of human fear, and shining your light in the world. Whether you're gifted or twice-exceptional, this episode offers valuable guidance on how to embrace the challenges and make the most of your personal journey.
Dianne makes several key points in the episode:
Restlessness, irritability, and discontent can signal personal growth and transformation.
Embrace curiosity and discernment to explore new experiences and possibilities.
The importance of having a strong support system, including mentors, coaches, friends, and like-minded people.
Restlessness and discontent can be a message from your inner self that there is more to explore or do in your life.
Facing your fears and not allowing them to dictate your life will help you grow as an adult.
Accepting the invitation for personal growth may lead to unexpected changes or challenges, but it's essential to follow your heart.
Comparing yourself to others is not helpful; instead, focus on your unique path and purpose.
Act from a place of unconditional love for all sentient beings, rather than from a fear-based ego.
Letting go of the "death grip" of fear allows you to step into your own personal sovereignty and be a beneficial presence in the world.
These points emphasize the importance of using restlessness and irritability as catalysts for personal growth and embracing the challenges of your unique journey.
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The 6-month Visionary Leader Program will move you forward. You will grow, transform and connect.
Join our Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme
Follow Dianne’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen
Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
Dianne’s Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com/
Website: https://visionsapplied.com/
Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your special gift, so let your light shine!
Tuesday Apr 04, 2023
Tuesday Apr 04, 2023
In this episode of Someone Get Me, we delve into joyful living and provide six steps to achieve it. Her six steps are not complicated but take a lot of practice. Joy is our natural inner state and our essence. It is an animated state behind us. Joy is who we are.
Anything like stress, strife, anger, and fear are altered in her mind. However, we have been trained to listen to our reptilian brain, causing us to be disconnected from our essence.
For many generations, we have been paying the price of being disconnected from our essence, which is joy. Joy is about the amazing flow of life, and it is not the same as happiness. Joy is like a thermostat, while happiness is like a thermometer.
Some people have a low set point for joy because they don't realize it can feel joyful or think it's a sin. Everyone's essence is joy, even those who do despicable things, and their despicable actions come from lies and deception they say to themselves and think.
We encourage listeners to peel away the lies we tell ourselves, eliminating the ways of being that separate us from who we are. Consider Beethoven's Ninth Symphony, Ode to Joy. Just like an orchestra with all the different instruments playing their role and bringing together this beauty, this joy, that's how we are.
Our work is to get all our instruments and parts of us to play, cooperate, and work together for that joyful experience in the face of contemplation, stress, and all different things.
Remember that Beethoven never heard his music. Meaning he did not let external validation or feedback affect his creative process. Find joy in living, not just in the outcome. When we connect with our essence, we can stand in our sovereignty as a unique being and live more joyfully.
Here are the six steps to have more joy in your life.
1. Jettison - anything that is not serving your highest good. Anything that is in the way needs to be released. Bringing the past into the future gets in the way of joy.
2. Omit worry - Worry is focusing our mind on what can go wrong. When we worry about tomorrow, we waste today.
3. Yield - to our higher knowingness. There is perfect timing for everything.
4. Focus on excellence - Excellence and perfection are different. Excellence means I'm open-minded, always willing to learn, and know there's always more. Perfectionism often stems from fear.
5. Use your talents to serve - Sometimes, our angst or separation is because we are not serving. We often think that serving is the same as giving. There is different consciousness because you can throw money at something or give away your stuff, but service means I'm doing it with that inner presence of unconditional love.
6. Laugh - We raise our field when we laugh and play. Laughter helps us bring more joy to the world. It helps us let that part of us out.
Remember that joy and joyful living lives in like the eternal present moment. That's how we maintain joy, always living in the present moment.
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The 6-month Visionary Leader Program will move you forward. You will grow, transform and connect.
Join our Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme
Follow Dianne’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen
Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
Dianne’s Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com/
Website: https://visionsapplied.com/
Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your special gift, so let your light shine!
Tuesday Mar 28, 2023
Tuesday Mar 28, 2023
Today we will talk about psychological safety and the introverted part of us in the culture.
Western society rewards the extroverted part of our personalities, and extroverts seem to have a significant presence, and that's what our society is about.
Yet there's a quiet confidence that comes with being an introvert. Introversion is positively correlated with being gifted or intelligent.
It's so important to understand that safety in a psychological manner is more important than physical safety. The wounds that happen when we are not psychologically safe or that trigger our fight or flight response can downgrade our functioning.
If you are an extrovert, consider how to create psychological safety for introverts. If you are an introvert, share these tips with your extroverted friends and family.
We should work together with increased awareness and understanding so everyone feels heard and cared about and our gifts can come to the table.
Five ways to create psychological safety for introverts in your life:
- Shorter is better. For introverts, too much too fast and overstimulation causes them to shut down. In many, it also causes emotional or decision fatigue.
- Minimize the number of surprises, and only sometimes push introverts out of their comfort zone.
- Release the need to say everything out loud and answer all the questions.
- Create space to ask questions and to share and talk.
- Give introverts advance notice. If you want introverts to pay attention, a process they need to charge their battery within and advance notice helps their process.
The people who say one thing and do something else create a lack of psychological safety for introverts. They struggle because they take everything in, ponder, and think about things.
So, we want to have a level of psychological safety. So, people with integrity do what they say they will do.
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The 6-month Visionary Leader Program will move you forward. You will grow, transform and connect.
Join our Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme
Follow Dianne’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen
Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
Dianne’s Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com/
Website: https://visionsapplied.com/
Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your special gift, so let your light shine!
Tuesday Mar 21, 2023
Tuesday Mar 21, 2023
Transition is not easy for anyone, but it could be more challenging for gifted individuals. Welcome to another episode of Someone Get's Me Podcast. Today's conversation is with Dianne's friend Julie Postma. Get ready to listen to some great tips on how to deal with change and transition.
Julie shares how she grew up as an only child in a single-mom home and had no easy time with it. As a latchkey kid, she learned from an early age that it was a lot about survival and that you often did not have many options in life.
Julie was fortunate to have had a strong influence from great teachers who "got her." They saw something in her that she didn't know she had. One particularly influential teacher helped her build self-confidence. This allowed her to attend college and become the first person in her family to earn a degree.
While raising her daughter Nikki, she met her husband Mike in Mexico, and after a six-month courtship, they married. Throughout their 27-year marriage, they raised Nikki and three additional exceptional children in a blended family home.
Their now young adult children learned valuable skills and assets due to learning to deal with the transition and change. One of these skills was learning to step out of their comfort zone, find meaningful connections, and know that their family was safe.
Key points covered in this episode:
- A good foundation for their family is instilling a solid foundation of confidence, safety, love, and discovering their passion. Safety is vital during challenges and allows our foundation to be stable.
- As gifted individuals, some things are easy, and it takes much extra care to navigate the world. Gifted people are often misunderstood.
- People must understand the complexity of what gifted children must deal with, and things are tricky for families to navigate.
- Self-care for parents of gifted children is a must since they are often in survival mode. Finding a practice that grounds you and helps you replenish your spirit during tough times is critical.
- Get connected with other like-minded individuals to help you find the support you need to get through
Julie Postma is an advocate, speaker, writer, co-founder, and Chief Marketing and Operating Officer at Gifted and Thriving, LLC, an organization that provides education, consulting, and services to the gifted and twice-exceptional (2e) communities. Together with her husband, Dr. Michael Postma, an educator and leader in the gifted and 2e education community for over two decades, they have raised four gifted children, three of whom are twice exceptional.
Overall, Julie encourages you to be "real" and be okay with being who you are designed to be. Connect with Julie at www.giftedandthriving.com
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need are a community and a mentor. The Someone Gets Me Experience could be the perfect solution to bringing your heart's desire into reality. You will grow, transform and connect. https://msdianneallen.com/someone-gets-me-experience/
Join our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme.
Follow Dianne's Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen.
Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
Dianne's Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com
Website: https://www.visionsapplied.com
Tuesday Mar 14, 2023
Tuesday Mar 14, 2023
What happens when we run from ourselves? What are the consequences of running from ourselves, and how to stop this pattern?
As I reflected on this topic in my life, I also got to think of it in my previous position as clinical director of substance abuse centers; I had counselors that worked for me who kept running from themselves. Unfortunately, when you are running from yourself, knowingly or unknowingly, consciously or unconsciously, the people you work with can only go so far. In the same way, coaches, healers, or helpers also tend to run away from their feelings knowingly and unknowingly.
There is a ceiling there because you can't walk someone into a place you've never been as far as awareness goes.
Gifted people come to me for mentoring work because that's an expansion of coaching, and unlike therapy, it's a much more holistic overall life awareness.
Key points from this episode:
- When we run from ourselves, we inadvertently stop and stunt our own growth, but we also hinder the growth of the people we're helping, whether it's our own children, our family members, or it's part of our work.
- Running from ourselves indicates we fear asking, "who am I?" or thinking we are impostors.
- Running from ourselves means being emotionally stunted, shut down, dysregulated, or experiencing analysis paralysis and the overthinking spiral.
Instead of running from ourselves, let's look within and see what needs to be rectified, what it is that's prickly, what it is that isn't serving us, and make choices that support our growth and welfare in whatever arena.
Dealing with pain is essential because it accumulates over time or, in some cases, is part of childhood or intergenerational trauma that is part of our DNA.
Intelligent people run from themselves more than others at first until they wake up. Remember that you, my friend, are a rock star. You're here on purpose, and it's time to stop running.
If this episode resonated with you, or if you have any questions. Please use the email on the show notes and tell me your thoughts. I would love to hear from you.
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The 6-month Visionary Leader Program will move you forward. You will grow, transform and connect.
Join our Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme
Follow Dianne’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen
Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
Dianne’s Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com/
Website: https://visionsapplied.com/
Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your special gift, so let your light shine!
Tuesday Mar 07, 2023
Tuesday Mar 07, 2023
In this episode of Somebody Gets Me, I am joined by Peter Mann, CEO & Founder of Virginia-based Oransi, a leading air purification company known for its efficient, intuitive, and reliable products.
Peter, proudly identifies as autistic and is on a mission to raise awareness about autism in order to improve the lives of others. He discusses the stigmas that come with being autistic and how society can work towards changing them, stressing the importance of embracing one's differences and focusing on their strengths to achieve success.
Peter touches on the challenges faced by the autistic community, specifically the high unemployment rate. He believes that the problem lies not with autistic individuals, but with the neurotypical hiring process that is not inclusive. The interview process is often designed for social extroverts, which makes it difficult for those who are not wired in that way to succeed. He offers support to those Neurodivergent individuals who need help navigating that aspect of the business world.
Peter encourages a mindset of diversity and inclusion to help solve complex problems and emphasizes the need to have awareness about oneself and society in order to set proper expectations. Throughout the episode, the speaker shares their experiences and insights gained from being a part of the autistic community, highlighting the importance of compassion and self-love. Ultimately, the episode serves as a call to action for society to be more accepting and accommodating of those who are different than the historically perceived norm.
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Peter Mann is the CEO & Founder of Virginia-based Oransi, a leading air purification company known for its efficient, intuitive, and reliable products. Peter was diagnosed as having autism as an adult and now advocates for autism awareness in the workplace. He went to college on a Navy ROTC scholarship and then served 4 years, including a tour in the Red Sea during the First Gulf War. He was a communications officer and then gunnery officer on the USS McCandless. He also is the Chair of the Association of Home Appliance Manufacturers’ Air Cleaner Council. In 2021, Oransi merged with Aviemore Technologies and is now a motor technology company with a clean energy mission. Oransi’s new manufacturing facility in Radford, Virginia is making products in the USA with advanced motor technologies. Previously, Peter was the Founder & CEO of the Austin, Texas-based Alen Corp., an air purification company he built, and after 7 years had a successful exit.
Connect with him on LinkedIn at https://www.linkedin.com/in/peter-mann/ Website: https://oransi.com/
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How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The 6-month Visionary Leader Program will move you forward. You will grow, transform and connect.
Join our Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme
Follow Dianne’s Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen
Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
Dianne’s Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com/
Website: https://visionsapplied.com/
Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your special gift, so let your light shine!
Tuesday Feb 28, 2023
Tuesday Feb 28, 2023
In this week's Someone Gets me Podcast episode, we discuss Why smart people struggle.
We will explore common issues individuals may experience: overthinking, distraction, time optimism, social awkwardness, processing speeds, and needing to be heard.
- Smart people tend to analyze and figure out every detail, often leading to an inability to make decisions. This is the dark side of overthinking: analysis paralysis.
- Smart people tend to be easily pulled away from the task at hand in search of an answer or solution. This behavior leads to distraction and finding rabbit holes to go down.
- Smart people also need to understand time is linear and that taking care of yourself while managing tasks is essential.
It's important to give yourself time to slow down and integrate all this information, as our being needs time to integrate physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
We must take the time to listen to the thoughts and opinions of others to foster meaningful connections. We must also take the time to listen to the views and opinions of others to create meaningful connections. Remember to give ourselves permission to slow down and breathe every once in a while.
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need are a community and a mentor. The Someone Gets Me Experience could be the perfect solution to bringing your heart's desire into reality. You will grow, transform and connect. https://msdianneallen.com/someone-gets-me-experience/
Join our Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme.
Follow Dianne's Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen.
Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
Dianne's Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com
Website: https://www.visionsapplied.com
Please take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your unique gift. Let your light shine.