I know many people who have gone after great career goals or educational goals, only to sabotage it right when they're almost there. I've worked with people in recovery for decades, almost getting to that milestone and then messing it up.
It's that dreaded thing of self-sabotage, the pain we create for ourselves by our own doing. It comes from the fear of success and can be fueled by complicated grief. Lean in and learn the three things that you do that ruin your success. Pay attention to these and make different choices if you're going down the self-sabotage road.
Join me in this episode of Someone Gets Me — The 3 Best Ways to Self-Sabotage with Dianne A. Allen. ▶️
Key point covered in this episode:
✔️ Making excuses is self-sabotage. You are not in integrity and alignment when you justify non-acceptable behavior. It's important to discern: Am I making an excuse? Am I explaining something away? What am I doing? Understand your motives behind your actions and tell yourself the truth.
✔️ Blaming others is self-sabotage. If you are holding someone as the reason why you're not getting where you want to go, doing what you want to do, or believing in what you want to believe and holding that person responsible is a way of self-sabotage. Blame causes all kinds of misinformation, heartaches, anger, fear, grief that result in disconnection and loneliness. So blaming anyone takes you out of your spiritual alignment. Remember, blaming others damages your own happiness, success, fulfillment, and belonging.
✔️ Over talking and over-explaining are habits of self-sabotage. Do you know someone who, when asked a simple question, replies with a 40-minute answer? Get aware of persons who have the habit of over-explaining and non-stop talking. Often, it could be off-putting to others because maybe the listener already understands, yet they don't give them a chance to ask a question, share their thoughts or say something. That kind of person sets themselves up for self-sabotage, knowingly or unknowingly.
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