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Someone Gets Me speaks to the gifted visionary who lies inside of you. Hosted by Dianne A. Allen, this podcast was created for those gifted and talented people who lie awake feeling alone inside. You are no longer alone. I created this podcast because we’ve all been there – feeling not understood, feeling not seen, feeling like people don’t care. You will hear from gifted people who have gotten over the chasm and have taken the leap to really create something special.
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Tuesday Mar 10, 2020
Tuesday Mar 10, 2020
How to Find Your Authentic Power Using A Neutral Zone
“We're all looking to have our own inner power show up in a way that's productive and successful.” — Dianne A. Allen (00:38-00:45)
Are you someone who works a lot with visionary leaders all over the place, whether young and old? The big thing that comes up all the time is authenticity. More than that, it's the authentic power that they're looking for. Aren't we all looking to have our own inner power show up in a way that's productive, successful, makes us feel alive and happy?
Authentic power is not about ego, control or fear. It's about living who you are, your core self, and allowing that core to show up in the world. In a magnificent way. In this week's episode, Dianne A. Allen talks about finding your authentic power using a neutral zone.
Part One of ‘How to Find Your Authentic Power Using A Neutral Zone’
Authenticity is how you treat yourself when no one's looking. When you pretend, that's not our authenticity. That's pretending. Sadly we live in a culture that teaches us to put on multiple masks all the time. We’re whoever somebody around us wants us to be.
Perhaps that worked years ago, a little bit, but it doesn't work anymore. It causes much too much inner pain and turmoil. If you're out of alignment with who you are authentically, then people get an entirely different viewpoint of who you are.
“It's impossible to change our core, authentic, real self.” – Dianne A. Allen (02:32-02:35)
You are perfect just the way you are. Any mistake that you've made, any upset you've caused, anything that's happened to us may have created veils and disconnect. It's impossible to change our core, authentic, real self. That's why people who've been through adversity can come out brighter. They're trying to save their lives.
Go deep within and connect to that authentic power to show up, and stay alive. Many people have been suffering from addiction over the years, and that's that story you can stop using, but you have to go deep within if you want to feel alive. You can use a neutral zone time to connect to and live from your authentic power.
Part Two of ‘How to Find Your Authentic Power Using A Neutral Zone’
You must have a protected and dedicated time for yourself every day. That means that you have it scheduled. You know when your time for you is, and you protect it, meaning you don't overbook it. You don't schedule anything on top of it and you don't allow yourself to be disturbed. We live in a society that says if your phone rings or you get a text, you have to answer it right away. That's why there are all the laws now about distracted driving.
We want to start to release the addiction to holding on to that external stimulus and have protected dedicated time for ourselves. Some people do that in meditation. Some people are walking in nature. Some people might do that because they're taking quiet time. By protecting and dedicating the time you are honoring yourself.
If you're not honoring yourself first, it's impossible to do it for anyone else. It's just not possible. So, honor yourself first. Put it on your calendar. Treat yourself as someone who's important enough, valuable enough, and love yourself enough.
Write down your thoughts, especially the ones that make no sense. Some of those things make no sense to start. Over time, your brain starts picking up information. Your soul, your intuition, your emotions, all of your being when it's quiet is giving you information that's valuable and vital for your life.
Even if you don't always see it. So, write it all down, whether it makes sense or not, and keep a log. You can go back and look at it or not share it with someone or not. That's not the point. The point is honoring yourself by documenting the fantastic ideas that come to you.
Take this time to write something creative about your life, like your memoirs or maybe your autobiography. If your life is worth living, it is worth recording. It is worth honoring your journey in your path.
“The more you step into your power with safe people, the better your life becomes.” – Dianne A. Allen (28:00-28:05)
As you are growing and you are evolving, the things you want will shift. Be aware of the fact that sometimes it changes, and it's okay. Reserve the right to change your mind. And at the same time, keep your eyes on what you say you want because otherwise, you're going to get distracted.
Otherwise, you're going to lose it and you're not going to get there. Because if you don't know where you're going, how are you going to get there? How will you know when you have success? How will you know when you have joy? How will you know when you are experiencing a fulfilling relationship with yourself?
How will you know when you're able to share that with another? And that's a question that must be discerned within you. That's your authentic power. That is why we need neutral zones to get away from the distraction.
We want to be successful; we want to have a beautiful life. Nobody wakes up every morning and says, let me see how I can feel rotten today. If we don't know our criteria and our evidence that we need, it's impossible to go for the goal. It's impossible to know what action to take or who to talk to or what to do. Think of what would be unlived if today was your last day on earth. What would be unlived?
Don't allow yourself to have your heart's desire and that authentic inner part of you so closed up in there and a secret that is eating away at you, and it's not coming out into the world. I believe that we all come to this world to bring whatever our unique special, the perfect gift is. How are you using your voice for the highest and best good of all?
If you're feeling stuck, if you're feeling irritated, if you're feeling frustrated, if you're feeling like your life is on pause, and you can't get it going, those are all signs that it's time to connect to that authentic power and see what it's telling you. Decide what next steps to take.
You need to know another person on the journey with you who is a trusted other person to support you. All humans require connection to other human beings. None of this is meant to be kept secret or alone. It's intended to bring people together.
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The Someone Gets Me Experience could be that perfect solution to bringing your heart's desire into reality. You will grow, transform and connect. https://msdianneallen.com/someone-gets-me-experience/
Join our Facebook Group Someone Gets Me: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme.
Follow Dianne’s Facebook Page: Dianne A. Allen: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen.
Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
Dianne’s Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com
Website: https://www.visionsapplied.com
Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your unique gift, let your light shine.
Tuesday Mar 03, 2020
Tuesday Mar 03, 2020
Every person has a different perspective, story, and level of pain. It doesn't matter because you deserve to find somebody who can help guide and support you in making the changes that you say you want to make.
If you're struggling with something, know that you're not alone. You're not supposed to do it all by yourself. If you're trying to help someone, it's essential to understand how you can give them the kind of help they need. In this week's episode, Dianne A Allen sheds some light that addiction isn't what you think it is.
Part One of ‘Addiction Isn’t What You Think It Is’
We're in a culture that sets a different definition for the term addiction, not realizing that everyone struggles. When people experience the kind of pain they've never felt before, there's a roller coaster ride of chaotic emotions.
“Having a support group that is supportive of your process without their agenda getting in the way is extremely important.” – Dianne A. Allen
We are constantly presented with things that we believe will make us happy. There are many things that people do to cover up the hole inside of them, which eventually leads to addiction. Unfortunately, when they return to the real world, the problem is still there, still nagging at them. It could be an eating disorder, sex, drugs, alcohol, gambling and many more. The sad thing is, healing isn't taking place because the inner wound isn't getting the right support it deserves.
Some people are trying to help somebody who is suffering from addiction from a cognitive mental standpoint. They keep telling them to find a spiritual life without really showing them how to do it or teaching them. Or worse yet, they lack compassion for that person's suffering.
It takes time to heal and there are many things to consider. Just because somebody might look calm doesn't mean they're not hurting. Just because somebody is smiling doesn't mean that's not a coping skill to help their pain.
Being able to listen genuinely is considered a great superpower. Isn't it rewarding when someone tells you that you're the only person who ever listened to their pains? There's absolutely nothing wrong with telling yourself the truth about your life, your state of affairs, and where you want to go. Map the road out for those kinds of things. Find a trusted person to help you out.
Part Two of ‘Addiction Isn’t What You Think It Is’
Breathing is wonderful because when we pause a little bit, it resets our nervous system. It allows us permission to feel. Now, remember your feelings are the energy source that tells you you're alive. You want to maintain feelings in our society. Many people don't want to feel anything and then numb themselves out.
Pay attention to how you're fueling your body. Take some time to breathe because if you’re not breathing correctly, your oxygen level gets depleted. Allow whatever pain is being held in the muscles and cells to emerge and come out like a bubble. In our culture, we learn if somebody hurts our feelings, the right answer is to let it go. Let things go in a way that works for you and serves you.
“Be someone who offers unconditional support with healthy boundaries.” – Dianne Allen
If anything goes wrong, it's best to have a circle of friends or anyone you can call. You're not supposed to deal with your pain alone. There's a lot of unconscious resistance that we all have to change. Having a group that is supportive of your process without their agenda being in the way is extremely important. Without that, your awareness and real authentic support. It's tricky to make long-term changes.
How To Connect With Dianne A. Allen
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Tuesday Feb 25, 2020
Tuesday Feb 25, 2020
Afraid of being a public persona? You're not alone. Maybe you fear putting something out there because too many people might see it. Or criticize your work. Realize that when we keep playing smaller than we're capable of, we prevent ourselves from living out our mission in life.
There is a visionary leader inside each one of us. In this week's episode, Dianne Allen, together with her special guest, Tamara Thompson, talks about the fear of visibility and imposter syndrome.
Part One of ‘Fear of Visibility + Imposter Syndrome’
Tamara Thompson is the CEO of Serious Take Productions, a premium video production company. Business owners hire her to visually and emotionally share their stories. They inspire and establish their authority through media creatively and compellingly, in a way that fits their brand.
Her clients are in the personal and professional development industry: speakers, coaches, consultants, agency owners that have built a business around their expertise. They have a proven track record of helping transform the lives of clients. They have produced reputable results.
They want help creating videos that help them sell without feeling overly salesy. They want to be positioned as the go-to authority and trusted experts in their field. Some of them may even want practical training on how to create videos, what to say, and how to use video and media to sell more effectively.
Her mission is to turn everyday people into influencers. She helps business owners build a scalable company and become more visible consistently online to attract more clients without having to chase people around or be tech-savvy.
“Storytelling can be used on a grand scale to save lives and inspire a nation.” – Tamara Thompson (11:02-11:08)
As you grow up, there are moments when you just feel like your life choices aren't aligned to your true calling. You feel the desire to be seen and heard for who you are. You're probably someone who's been hiding for years when you have so much potential. It's essential to be visible because there are so many people in the world who choose to hide their amazing gifts.
But there's another thing: some people, despite the evident success, have a feeling of inadequacy. They want to position themselves differently on social media than the way they are in their everyday practices. Put yourself out there and don't worry about what other people think. At times you may feel like you're an imposter because what you're doing so good at comes so naturally.
Part Two of ‘Fear of Visibility + Imposter Syndrome’
You must be able to share things with people, be vulnerable, and strike that genuine connection. Find more people who can truly understand you and resonate with your story. Show them where you've been, how you've gotten where you are today. Show yourself as the expert.
If this is something that you're struggling with, start recording a video of yourself. Practice, in general, doesn't make things perfect. But it does create considerable progress. If you want to get better, you have to be willing to step out and take a risk. Think about what you're doing to get where you want to go. Come up with a plan to expand.
“Every person has an interesting story to tell.” – Dianne Allen
You have an incredible story to share, and don't let anyone or anything get in the way of you believing that. You have to understand that all stories are meant to be heard. Figure out which story throughout your life path is worth sharing to connect with people on a deeper emotional level. You might ins
Learn More About Tamara Thompson
Tamara Thompson is the CEO of Broadcast Your Authority, a company that specializes in video marketing and all aspects of production. She has directed for major corporations such as Safeway, Microsoft, and Starbucks.
Their mission is to turn everyday people into Influencers. They help business owners become more visible consistently online to attract more clients without having to chase people around or be tech-savvy.
Website: http://www.broadcastyourauthority.com/home
Instagram: @TamaraThompsonOfficial
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DirectorTamaraThompson/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamarathompson-serioustakepro/
Join The Broadcast Your Authority Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/broadcastyourauthority/
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The Someone Gets Me Experience could be that perfect solution to bringing your heart's desire into reality. You will grow, transform and connect. https://msdianneallen.com/someone-gets-me-experience/
Join our Facebook Group Someone Gets Me: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme.
Follow Dianne’s Facebook Page: Dianne A. Allen: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen.
Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
Dianne’s Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com
Website: https://www.visionsapplied.com
Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your unique gift, let your light shine.
Tuesday Feb 18, 2020
Tuesday Feb 18, 2020
There are many ways to serve others to make them happy. It's considered the highest form of charity. But at the end of the day, whichever way you choose to serve, it all boils down to having integrity in your own space and allowing it to create a positive impact. In this week's episode, Dianne Allen, together with her special guest Jamie Delaluz talks about serving others.
Part One of ‘Serving Others with Jamie Delaluz’
Some people like Jamie Oxendine loves to have gatherings as a way of serving others. You might be one of them. If you are, then you probably put love into the food preparation process. It's an essential part. Food is the ultimate nourishment and everything. For some reason, there's something beyond that in food that lights you up.
“You can serve others through your love for nature and food.” – Jamie Delaluz (03:04-03:19)
Here's a fantastic discovery; you can also grow your food in a very intimate way and can use it as a form of medication. It's packed with vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants. The cucumber seed goes into the soil; you take care of it each day, the vine wines around drops its flowers, out comes the cucumbers. They're ready to pick.
By growing your food, you'll get peace of mind knowing what you are eating and what has gone into producing them. If you take good care of the whole process, it will be a medicine for you. It is mother nature and we are created to be connected to our source. If you're passionate about growing your food and preparing it to serve others, a lot of families can benefit from it, especially so many children are suffering right now with different autoimmune issues and behavioral challenges.
Part Two of ‘Serving Others with Jamie Delaluz’
It's also good to remember that as you serve, you can be that channel for the highest good of others. Serving is an exciting way to address pressing issues like mental health, stress, depression, and different burdens that people have in their life. We all need to come home at the end of the day, be nourished, feel relaxed, and cared for. So, if you have expertise in feeding people, you can use your knowledge in producing plant-based healing food, which is rich in minerals and natural ingredients.
You can combine things like farming, growing food, feeding and catering. Serving others doesn't always need to be the big things. Now, how does this make a massive difference in the lives of others? They can learn to do it for themselves and enjoy the process of growing food, preparing food, knowing the necessary skills around recipes, and developing their intuition. You never know that somewhere along that process, you are serving them in many ways.
“Technology has changed the way people interact.” – Jamie Delaluz (08:33-08:39)
If you're a parent, gardening is something you can enjoy doing with your children. It creates that feeling of connection. In comparison to previous generations, technology has drastically changed the way people communicate with each other around the world. It has revolutionized in many different ways, but many are still yearning for some connection, which means technology somehow has adverse effects on the quality of communication.
On the other hand, face-to-face communication opens up more opportunities for building rapport compare to audio or written communication. Just like with podcast shows, the host gets to interview the guest through video calling platforms, but it still feels better when done in person.
More About Jamie Delaluz
Jamie Delaluz is founder of Eluvian, a company uplifting millions of families today through inspirational online learning and tomorrow through ecological master-planned communities. Jamie grew up in the Garden state, growing veggies in the backyard with his parents and foraging for fresh berries in the woods. His joy is helping families reconnect and renew their relationships through the culinary arts and gardening. He currently lives in Florida with his three daughters and wife, Emma, founder of a plantain waffle mix business. During the week he wears many different hats: Youth Minister at their local spiritual center, Teacher of Culinary Arts and Entrepreneurship at local schools, Imaginarian of the Recipes for Life community, real estate listing specialist and ecovillage developer.
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The Someone Gets Me Experience could be that perfect solution to bringing your heart's desire into reality. You will grow, transform and connect. https://msdianneallen.com/someone-gets-me-experience/
Join our Facebook Group Someone Gets Me: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme.
Follow Dianne’s Facebook Page: Dianne A. Allen: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen.
Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
Dianne’s Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com
Website: https://www.visionsapplied.com
Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your unique gift, let your light shine.
Tuesday Feb 11, 2020
Tuesday Feb 11, 2020
Having Fun Using Our Coping Skills
“Relax no matter what’s going on around you.”— Dianne Allen
People think learning coping skills is hard. How do you manage the stress of life? You already have the ability to do it. It might've been a tough day, but it's not the end of the world. In this week's episode, Dianne Allen talks about having fun using our coping skills.
Part One of ‘Having Fun Using Our Coping Skills’
You probably had difficulties in life that taught you productive skills to cope with changes, transitions, and stress. It doesn't always have to be big things. We tend to overlook the small things without realizing they can also create an incredible impact on our life. It's little things like connecting with nature that could help. Decompress your system, consume your favorite herbal tea, or remind yourself that everything's going to be alright.
“Coping skills can prevent you from going to highly stressful places.” – Dianne Allen
One effective coping skill is allowing someone else to help. Allow other people to be of service to you, and help you step out of a stressful situation. Does this remind you of a specific time you were helped by someone? Had you not allowed that person to help you, you would have kept pushing without letting anyone in. It could have been a much longer day. During stressful moments, consider exercising, walking, and breathing to help decompress the day. Allow what happened to float away. You're in charge of your life.
Part Two of ‘Having Fun Using Our Coping Skills’
Another coping skill is to connect with other people. It could be calling a friend and initiating a conversation. Feel free to share anything that excites you or makes you feel good. We need to breathe from our diaphragm and refocus our thinking. Wherever we place our energy is where we get more of it.
What are you thinking about right now? What are your primary thoughts? Are they hopeful and excited? Are they beautiful, compassionate, and kind? Are you nice to yourself? What are you doing? When you feel stressed, feel the full range of your feelings, but it doesn't mean you have to be stuck there. It doesn't mean you have to stay in a negative place. What matters is that you dedicate and have protected time specifically for your rejuvenation, whatever that is.
“Everything around us is a reminder of the beauty and the sacredness of our lives.” – Dianne Allen
Another coping skill that you might be interested in is facial aerobics. Move your face in different ways. There's a lot of muscles in your face connected to the rest of your body. If you walk around with a stressed look all the time, you're never going to be able to experience the greatness of a full range of emotions. Move your face all around. See how many weird faces you can make in a few minutes. Give yourself time to break up the tension. Thoughts that you have that's not of love and kindness, it can leave. You can change your life by changing the way you think.
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The Someone Gets Me Experience could be that perfect solution to bringing your heart's desire into reality. You will grow, transform and connect. https://msdianneallen.com/someone-gets-me-experience/
Join our Facebook Group Someone Gets Me: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme.
Follow Dianne’s Facebook Page: Dianne A. Allen: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen.
Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
Dianne’s Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com
Website: https://www.visionsapplied.com
Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your unique gift, let your light shine.
Tuesday Feb 04, 2020
Tuesday Feb 04, 2020
How to Deal with Mental Turmoil with P. Susan Jackson
In this episode, Dianne Allen and P. Susan Jackson give some words of wisdom about how you can deal with mental turmoil.
"All Emotions Allow Us to Understand Who We Are." — P. Susan Jackson (09:29-09:34)
There's a lot of turmoil that happens within our thinking every day. Many people don't take time for self-reflection and are afraid to dive into negative emotions. But at the same time, you have to embrace who you are. There has to be some regulation and boundaries to maintain discipline in your life.
Part One of 'How to Deal with Mental Turmoil with P. Susan Jackson'
Dianne asks how Susan coaches people who are struggling to get a sweet sleep. Susan says, "If you want to sleep well, you have to look at all aspects of your physiology and environmental interface. That goes for things like being careful with the types of food you consume and how many hours you're spending on screens. Some of us have jobs where we're very screen heavy.
"Getting enough sleep helps keep your mind and body healthy." – P. Susan Jackson (25:51-25:56)
The world is beautiful because we can connect with people, but let's take the time to reflect if we're balancing that out with time in the world away from screens. The room that you sleep in is also significant." Susan also added that developing a relaxation practice, like listening to a piece of soothing music, is helpful. Just the whole idea of letting go of the day.
Part Two of 'How to Deal with Mental Turmoil with P. Susan Jackson'
Susan has tremendous compassion for people who are feeling unseen and unheard. That's a super tight place. There are many ways to joyfully express yourself. But sometimes it takes full acceptance of the range and depth of your complicated feelings. Be celebratory with yourself and share that with other people around you. We don't have to live shut down lives where we live in denial of our positive qualities. Every profoundly gifted person is unique.
"Be celebratory with yourself and share that with other people around you." – P. Susan Jackson (44:58-45:03)
When you meet an eccentric person, be a little patient. Could you give them a little space? Be open to the possibility. Take a risk with someone who seems a little different. Please don't wait until someone is buried in the ground before we talk about how awesome they are. We need to support each other because people present themselves in different ways.
Dianne Allen ends this podcast with these words, "If you are resonating with this topic, follow us and learn the different things that we're doing. But I want you to realize that if you hear our voice, there is no accident and there's a reason why you're listening to us. Especially if you've been listening all of this time and you still want to hear more. It's because there's something about you that's amazing and wonderful that's trying to emerge. So, let it come out in its full expression, and we will support you in any way we can."
You got to hear a lot about how to deal with mental turmoil and all kinds of other things in this episode. So, check out Sue's information and remember to keep your face to the sun so the shadows fall behind you. You're a rock star. You're here on purpose. Go out there and be who you're meant to be.
Learn More About P. Susan Jackson Susan Jackson is the Founder and Therapeutic Director of “The Daimon Institute for the Highly Gifted” in White Rock, British Columbia, Canada. This international institute offers services to highly and profoundly gifted children and adults, supporting their learning needs and overall development. Learn more here: http://www.daimoninstitute.com/
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The Someone Gets Me Experience could be that perfect solution to bringing your heart's desire into reality. You will grow, transform and connect. https://msdianneallen.com/someone-gets-me-experience/
Join our Facebook Group Someone Gets Me: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme.
Follow Dianne’s Facebook Page: Dianne A. Allen: https://www.facebook.com/msdianneallen.
Email contact: dianne@visionsapplied.com
Dianne’s Mentoring Services: https://msdianneallen.com
Website: https://www.visionsapplied.com
Be sure to take a second and subscribe to the show and share it with anyone you think will benefit. Until next time, remember the world needs your unique gift, let your light shine.
Tuesday Jan 28, 2020
Tuesday Jan 28, 2020
What It Means to Be an Empowered Woman
“Storytelling Can Be A Form of Empowerment.” —Dianne Allen (01:31-01:43)
Bumping into someone who seems like a perfect match right away is incredible. Especially if that person’s vision aligns with yours. That’s how it all started with Dianne A Allen and Melanie C. Klein, who share amazing stories through a podcast interview. In this episode, they talk about what it means to be an authentically empowered person.
Part One of ‘What It Means to Be an Empowered Woman’
Melanie says that storytelling is the most engaging way to share things. Her curiosity started when she stepped into an incredible class at a community college called the 'sociology of women'. She didn't have the awareness or the understanding of what it was or why it was even important for her. It was very vague. Through the guidance of her mentor, she remembered there were many times she felt very small.
“Empowerment is about fully embracing who you are.” – Dianne Allen (20:19-20:31)
Many women are rooted in a large system of oppression. That was one of the toxic and dysfunctional aspects of Melanie’s upbringing and experiences. But she realized that she wasn’t lacking anything. The problem was growing up in a culture where girls and women are systematically oppressed. They end up internalizing oppression and creating barriers in their own way. The doubts and lack of self-worth were instilled because girls and women are objectified. She realized empowerment is something larger than herself, she is fine the way she is and that there are exciting new possibilities available for her. That was her first step toward authentic empowerment.
Her mentor supported her all the way through. Melanie soon had a light bulb moment, where she knew this is what she wanted to do for the rest of her life. She committed to empowering others. She knew it benefits society when we give everyone an opportunity to be self-actualized and value their diversity.
People can get caught up in analysis or intellectualizing. Then, we can fail to act. Sometimes the culture, the narrative, the value systems, and the structured oppression within that system can lead people astray from their own authentic selves.
Part Two of ‘What It Means to Be an Empowered Woman’
When Melanie started stepping into leadership, she kept hitting what felt like walls. It took a while to get going. Overcoming these obstacles is where she felt the greatest sense of expansion, the greatest sense of empowerment. When you empower other women, that makes you unique. You have the honor to guide people so that they can have a rich expression of life and thus be more empowered. If we're gonna come into the sense of empowerment, that empowerment is plugged into the full radical acceptance of all parts of us.
“Empowered people, empower others.” - Dianne Allen (18:02-18:19)
Things have changed dramatically in the past 40 years, the needle keeps being moved. Check what needs to be changed or improved. It's so important to always focus on what's working and what has shifted. Things have improved, let's celebrate that. There has been a great shift in terms of representation for women in politics. There are more female-owned companies. There are more CEOs that are women. We have been the ones who have made that change.
When you look back and you see how much things have changed, there's definitely hope for the future. You're a rock star and you're here on purpose with a purpose. So, go out there and live.
More Information About Melanie C. Klein
Melanie C. Klein, M.A., is a sought-after empowerment coach, thought leader and influencer in the areas of body confidence, authentic empowerment, and visibility. Attributing yoga and feminism as her two primary influences, Melanie has been in the business of empowering women since 1994. With over 20 years experience and notable credits including advising the Santa Monica College Feminist Majority Leadership Alliance, working closely with Global Girl Media and running the LA chapter of Women, Action and the Media; she has dedicated her passion, knowledge and coaching skillset to the empowerment of innumerable women through increasing confidence, self-esteem, worth and value. http://www.melaniecklein.com/
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The Someone Gets Me Experience could be that perfect solution to bringing your heart's desire into reality. You will grow, transform and connect. https://msdianneallen.com/someone-gets-me-experience/
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Tuesday Jan 21, 2020
Tuesday Jan 21, 2020
Feeling Misunderstood or Unworthy with Maisie Hill
“Choose Carefully Who You Share Your Vision With.” — Maisie Hill (05:26-05:28)
Many people feel misunderstood or unworthy even if they look good on the outside. To help dispel these negative feelings, Dianne Allen has invited Maisie Hill from the United Kingdom as this week’s guest. Maisie is a highly qualified and sought-after women's health expert with over a decade of experience as a practitioner and birth doula. Maisie knows the power of working with the menstrual cycle and believes that our hormones are there to serve us and help get what we want out of life.
In the growing trend of women getting a handle on their menstrual cycle, Maisie is a go-to authority and has been quoted in publications from The Guardian to Grazia. Her first book, Period Power, came out May 2nd, 2019, and became an instant bestseller, reaching the Top 50 of all books on Amazon. She loves yoga classes, long-distance walks, Downton Abbey, toasted buckwheat tea, cozy blankets, cooking, tending her plants and slurping ramen.
Part One of ‘Feeling Misunderstood or Unworthy with Maisie Hill’
Maisie says, 'Sometimes we get confronted with uncomfortable situations that make us feel misunderstood and unworthy. But these negative feelings push us to be clear with our life goals. During my early twenties, I had a very strong vision. The hard thing about that is that other people don't see your vision no matter how powerful you think it is. I'm a big fan of visioning my way into my future. And what does that look like? What does that feel like? That's where I draw a real sense of strength for what I want for my life and for how I'm serving or helping others. It's good if you have people who are going to at least listen without judgment. If they are going to offer up an opinion, let it be constructive and ideally positive. But it's hard because if we're sharing a vision with someone who's not that interested, then they're not going to get it and doubt your capabilities."
Maisie’s success in writing and publishing makes it tempting to characterize her as an overnight success. In fact, it's a decade of hard work that brought her where she is today.
“If I can do it, you can do it too.” – Dianne Allen (22:38-22:42)
Maisie had a horrific period of pain. The kind that that leaves you no choice but to stay in bed for two days, dosed up on painkillers, with a scorching hot water bottle strapped to your belly. That was her life for 15 years until she decided to do something about it. And she did a lot. She tried about every type of treatment going.
Here’s a fantastic story about one of her clients: "There was someone that I worked with, towards the end of last year. She had gotten in touch with me to work through some menstrual cycle issues because I do online coaching sessions with people. And so, we were doing a whole program together. In the beginning, we were focusing on her particular symptoms that show up with her cycle. Then kind of a third of the way through, something interesting started to happen, and I had progressed with her symptoms and psycho related stuff, and that freed her up. The thing is when you're struggling with health issues, and you don't have that strong foundation, it keeps you locked in a place. But when you work on that and you nourish, you strengthen yourself, you resolve the health symptoms that you have, and you improve them enough. So, she found herself in a situation where we could talk about, instead of just dealing with the issues, how to use her cycle to get what she wants out of life. And we were having a conversation like, where do you want to go in the next year or so? Like what is your vision? What do you want to move towards, and how can we use your cycle to get you that quicker? It was incredible. And we, by the time we'd reached the end of the coaching, she had done something in her business. She reached her goal that she didn't think she'd be able to do until halfway through this year. It happened so fast, and she was such an amazing client to work with. There was a mixture of salting her symptoms out. But also helping her to move forward with her business and to take a great, scary leap. That was amazing to witness."
Part Two of ‘Feeling Misunderstood or Unworthy with Maisie Hill’
Dianne is in complete agreement with Maisie. "Many times I hear women talking down and bad about their bodies feeling unworthy because of their period, their cycle or any part of being a woman. That whole idea of being not good enough and not measuring up as part of it, which to me is the opposite. I'm sure you run into people who think that it's not very good being a woman and I don't want to deal with this. And that creates more pain."
“It’s great to be surrounded by people who love your works.” – Maisie Hill (30:56-31:01)
Don't listen to anyone's opinion unless they are doing the same level of work. If anyone's offering unwanted opinions and criticism, block them out. Instead, listen to the people who are doing big things. It's so important to be mindful of who's in your world and whose opinions you value.
Have people around you who think what you're doing is terrific. You need a community that is going to hold you accountable, hold a mirror up to you, and help you to see yourself in every aspect.
If what Maisie saying rings a bell in your spirit, I encourage you to connect with her in whatever way you feel most comfortable. Your life will be better for it.
More Information About Maisie Hill
Maisie Hill is a highly qualified and sought-after women’s health expert with over a decade of experience as a practitioner and birth doula. Maisie knows the power of working with the menstrual cycle and believes that hormones are there to serve us and help us get what we want out of life. In the growing trend for women to get a handle on their menstrual cycle, Maisie is a go-to authority and is quoted in publications from The Guardian to Grazia. Her first book, Period Power, came out May 2nd, 2019 and became an instant bestseller, reaching the Top 50 of all books on Amazon.
INSTAGRAM: www.instagram.com/_maisiehill_
FACEBOOK: www.facebook.com/maisiehillwombwhisperer
TWITTER: www.twitter.com/maisiehill_
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You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The Someone Gets Me Experience could be that perfect solution to bringing your heart's desire into reality. You will grow, transform and connect. https://msdianneallen.com/someone-gets-me-experience/
Join our Facebook Group Someone Gets Me: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme.
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Tuesday Jan 14, 2020
Tuesday Jan 14, 2020
7 Simple Tips to Help Reduce Your Stress Right Now
“Stress Shows Up When You’re Not Taking Care of Yourself the Way You Should.” — Dianne Allen (02:46-02:49)
If we look at our human physiology, we are meant to be at rest and at peace, not stressed out all of the time. That's how our neurology and our biology designed peace and harmony. The problem with that idea is that's not how our life is right now in this century. So, our biology, our physiology, our emotions, our mind, everything, every part of us pays a price. It is a good idea to begin to get closer to the way our neurology and our biology are designed. In this episode, Dianne Allen talks about the 7 simple tips to help you reduce your stress right now.
Part One of ‘7 Simple Tips to Help You Reduce Your Stress Right Now’
There is such a thing as good stress. Then there's the stress that's not so hot. We could call it bad anxiety or toxic stress, but good stress does exist. It helps us get up off the couch instead of laying around all the time. It helps motivate us to get things done that we need to get done. So, not all stress is bad stress. We all know that pressure over a long period can turn the immune system against us. It can cause problems in the body.
Why do you think so many people get stressed out or burned out or sick? It's because stress can also show up emotionally. It can show up with anger attacks, rage and frustration levels were high. Stress can also show up in poor digestion. It can show up in poor elimination. It can show up in poor sleep and poor diet — all those things where we're not taking care of ourselves the way we should. Autoimmune issues and arthritis are long term consequences of stress: inflammation and all kinds of toxic things in the body.
Stress is something that we want to learn how to understand. We want to learn how to work with it, not try to stop it, or deny it. Ask yourself, what are some things I can do to keep my stress level in a way that is okay for my body? For my mind? For now, I want to function? I've spent many years of my life, stressed out, tons of stress. My job has been essential. The work I do when it comes to saving the lives of many people is very intense. And pretty soon, my body starts feeling it. So, you might be feeling something similar to that if you have a big family or you're a supervisor or a CEO. I work with visionary leaders. And the visionary leaders I work with often have people that they're responsible for helping. There's a lot of potential stress points.
“Stress becomes a problem when it’s impairing our health, our emotional being and our lives in general.” – Dianne Allen (00:46-00:55)
Part Two of ‘7 Simple Tips to Help You Reduce Your Stress Right Now’
Air is your friend. I can always tell when somebody is moderating some type of pain, whether it's emotional or physical because they're breathing differently. They're breathing out of their chest, and it's barely moving. And if I look at their stomach, if I look at their belly, there's no movement. That means the person is moderating some type of pain. Known or unknown to them. Conscious or unconscious. That's what it means. For you to get the parasympathetic and the sympathetic nervous system to calm down is to belly breathe.
Blow all the air out and then allow the air to come in. So that your inhale and your exhale are around the same length of time. And then, to reset the nervous system, we want to pause at the top. Pause at the bottom for a couple of seconds that's not sucking it in and holding it. That adds stress. It's a pause. It's a great way to help if you're feeling stressed out if you're feeling anxious if you're feeling pressure or if you're trying to decide. Give yourself the chance to breathe for a second and see what's going on. It's one of the most important things, and yet so many people miss it. I want you to practice breathing. Thus, a homework assignment might be to lay on your back at least once during the day. Before you go to bed, put a book on your belly right over your belly button and make that book go up and down. Now the inhale goes up, the exhale goes down. And I say that because many people, especially women, have learned to suck it in on your inhale. It doesn't work, and it adds stress to the system. People are stressing themselves out by not breathing properly. If I'm stressed while driving, I exhale and let my shoulders drop and let my body settle down. Then I can make better decisions, and the stress doesn't eat away at my joints and my muscles.
I use essential oils all the time. Lavender is an excellent essential oil to calm the system down. It's a therapeutic essential oil. I told one of my clients about it, and that person wondered why it didn't work. All because it's not an essential oil, it was a fragrance oil that was lavender scented. Those things are petroleum-based. I'm talking about an essential oil that comes from the plant because it's therapeutic for you. There are plenty of ones out there. But if there's an essential oil that you like that helps calm you down, use it. Sometimes people use essential oils only when it's the end of the line.
Have a sweet, warm beverage where you can wrap your hands around. Often, I'll have a herbal tea that doesn't have caffeine in it because caffeine will set the adrenals off a little. So, I allow myself to have herbal tea that is peaceful and calm. Sometimes it will be red tea. Anything without caffeine in it that tastes good to you is fine. Some people like warm milk. I sometimes make some warm water, and I put squeezed lemon in it, and that's it. And it tastes good to me. Something warm helps take the stress out of the body. Sometimes if I'm under much pressure and I'm driving, I will have a warm beverage with me. A warm bath or long warm shower works well too.
“Our brains are wired to be connected to others.” – Dianne Allen (12:57-13:00)
Another thing to reduce your stress is to connect with somebody else. Our brains are wired to be connected to others of the same species. And sometimes when your stress level is high, you don't want to be around people, or you don't want to talk to people. Sometimes that's the very thing we could use to help decrease the stress level.
I have several people in my life that I use to help myself with my stress. We'll go out, and we'll do something fun and laugh together. It'll distract me from what's stressing me out. But more than that, I'm connecting to somebody important to me. It's amazing how great that works. Sometimes it'll be a big conversation, but it's a connection that matters. I prefer the human relationship to decrease stress to be in person because our brains harmonize within a few minutes of being connected. Connecting with another person is not through texting or email. Those aren't real connections. I'm referring to a face to face interaction. Hearing the voice of someone you want to talk to help reduce your stress.
Another thing you can do is to commune with nature. Communing with nature is essential. What I'm talking about is stopping for a second and noticing what you see in life — noticing the wildflowers, noticing the glistening of the snow, noticing the sound of the birds. How does your skin feel? The breeze? Is there wind? Is it a gentle breeze? Is it warm? Is it cold? Is it raining?
I love the full moon, the nighttime, and the stars. Those are beautiful to me. And that communing with nature takes the stress right out of my body. I can feel it melting right away. With some people, it's going to the beach touching their toes in the sand. What matters is that you do it. It matters that you go out there and you commune with nature. When you're connected to nature, that's what it is. You're allowing yourself to rest in the arms of life and the universe all around you. It's a fabulous experience, which you might want to try when you travel or go someplace that's not your home.
Lastly, focus your attention on gratitude and practice self-compassion. It's holding the awareness of gratitude. We know that appreciation changes our brain for the better. It relaxes our system and decreases our stress level. It allows for better, authentic communication and connection in all of our relationships, including the one with ourselves. It completely changes things for the better for all of us.
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You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The Someone Gets Me Experience could be that perfect solution to bringing your heart's desire into reality. You will grow, transform and connect. https://msdianneallen.com/someone-gets-me-experience/
Join our Facebook Group Someone Gets Me: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme.
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Tuesday Jan 07, 2020
Tuesday Jan 07, 2020
“Joy Is Our Natural State.” — Dianne Allen (00:53-00:55)
We are made of joy. We're meant to be joyful all the time. Most people think that when we're finally joyful and happy that we are in an altered state, but for me, it's not true. If you're not feeling joy, then you're in an altered state. In this episode, Dianne Allen talks about the six ways to bring joy back into your life. Tune in to the full episode for all six steps that spell out “JOY FULL.”
Part One of ‘How to Bring Back Joy into Your Life’
The first step to bring back joy into your life is to discard or jettison anything that does not serve you. Jettison does not mean pushing it aside and pretending it's not there. That's not what it means. It means to release with intention. Jettison is like eliminating the old ways to replace it with new ones. I've had to discard people and situations in my life that didn't serve me anymore. Not because I was angry or something was wrong, but because it didn't serve where I was going. So, we have to be willing to take a stand. Take a stand on what is right for us without judgment or assigning value to somebody else's decision or to our own.
“Let go of the things that no longer serve you.” – Dianne Allen (01:45-01:53)
If something's not serving you, it's time to check it. That doesn't mean you need a jerk reaction. It doesn't mean those things. It means you pay attention. I've had to jettison certain foods out of my diet that I didn't even know were causing trouble. When I took them out of my diet, and I saw how much better I felt, I don't even think about those foods anymore. Again, discard things that do not serve you. Sometimes those things are a belief system like the belief that you're unworthy or you're not good enough. Or, some women have the impression that women are all second class citizens. Some men have the belief that they're not allowed to have a feeling or use their intuition. Those beliefs don't serve us because they're not valid anymore. They were never true. So, we have to be willing to jettison those things that are not helping us. It's an ongoing process. You're going to want to assess what you're doing as you become aware of things.
Omit things that bring you down and don't bring you toward your goals. In other words, get off the couch if you say you want to be healthy, and you want to run a marathon. That's a simple one. You have to identify the distractions if you say you want to make some kind of goal in your career, and you're ready to act, and you have to admit the things that are distractions. You need to realize procrastination. So, I always take time to omit those things that drag me down. Whatever it is without judgment. The key here is not to judge it. Sometimes you're going to eliminate some of your behavior. Like hitting the snooze button 500 times in the morning. Set your alarm for when you want to get up. Then get up once it rings. Give up the procrastination.
Part Two of ‘How to Bring Back Joy into Your Life’
Your heart and soul knows what is right for you. Yield to it. We forget to pause and then act. Sometimes yielding includes meditation. It might consist of taking some quiet time every day like journaling. You can also spend time in nature, so the right inspiration can come in to take you to the next step. I spend my time every day yielding in the environment with my dog. I spend time meditating every day for 10 minutes or an hour. I set time to produce the bright ideas I'm having. So, I can see how they play out. All those forms of yielding bring me joy.
Have faith. We have to have faith that the other people aren’t going to cross the line. That’s where accidents happen, right? Or that we’re not going to cross the line. Faith is about how we step into the world. When I leave my home in the morning, I have confidence that my house will be safe. I have faith that my dog will be okay. I have confidence that my trip to work will be excellent. Those are all things we have faith in to keep living. Our joy comes from the inside out. It comes from our belly like a fountain and radiates out into the world. We want to have faith in the fact that we can allow our inner beauty to radiate out. And that faith is what keeps us moving forward and what keeps awakening the joy. Imagine the joy within you is trying to emerge. It’s like a fountain. It’s like a flower trying to come up through the soil and then develop. We want to permit it. The way we give joy permission so we can feel it in our lives is to have faith in the world and in the universe.
“Don’t let anything steal your inner joy.” - Dianne Allen (06:26-06:31)
Understanding comes with a sense of peace. A sense of calmness. A sense of knowingness. And from that comes confidence. So, knowledge has many levels. We have cognitive understanding, which I consider as an intellectual concept or an idea. Then we have an agreement with our heart where we can feel another’s feelings. Or we can understand something on an emotional level.
We also have love and laughter. Love is the ability and the willingness to allow other people to do what’s right for themselves. Love is not manipulation. Love is being willing to be with somebody, including yourself, without any agenda. It takes a lot of work because sometimes we want the best for somebody when we care about them. We try to impose what they should do that steals both of our joy. Love is about honoring, respecting, and holding that higher support without throwing agenda. Unless somebody asks for your opinion, you can ask permission to share it. Don’t give it to them. If you want the advice of somebody else, then practice asking for it.
These little sequences of six things help me remain joyful. You'll have joy back in your life if you apply these simple steps. I want you to remember that you are amazing. You're a rock star. I know you are. So, go out there and let your joy shine in ways that not even you can imagine.
How to Connect with Dianne A. Allen
You have a vision inside to create something bigger than you. What you need is a community and a mentor. The Someone Gets Me Experience could be that perfect solution to bringing your heart's desire into reality. You will grow, transform and connect. https://msdianneallen.com/someone-gets-me-experience/
Join our Facebook Group Someone Gets Me: https://www.facebook.com/groups/someonegetsme.
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